WHY DO PEOPLE BLAME OTHERS

Some people start to blame everyone around them as soon as anything bad happens. While the habit of blaming others is very common still there is no one common reason behind it but instead there are many different reasons that could make a person blame others.

Understanding these reasons is one of the things that will help you deal with people who blame others. By drawing their attention to the real reasons behind their behavior most of them will realize they were wrong and will stop throwing the blame on others. In this article I will tell you why do people blame others.

The reasons behind the habit of blaming others

People blame others because of the following reasons:

• Loss of control: Some people panic when they lose controlof a situation and so they try to restore the sense of being in control by blaming others!! So behind the act of blaming others fear might exist!!
• Controlling you: Some people try to control others by blaming them and making them feel that they are bad. If someone desperately wants you to do something he might blame you to change your behavior. Labeling you selfish, arrogant or snob by friends is one of the common methods for controlling others using blame.
• They learned it from their parents: Some parents have failed to teach their children how to take responsibility for their actions and so they grew up as adults who blame others whenever something bad happens.
• Refusing to admit that they are responsible: Some people can’t admit failures and mistakes so they blame others for them in order to escape from the responsibility. One common example is saying "I was late because the streets were crowded" instead of admitting that you should have taken the traffic jam into account
• Unable to accept what happened: People blame others when they fail to accept something that happened. Had those people learned how to properly accept events they would have never blamed others

Blaming others and feelings helpless

People who blame others usually try to hide their feelings ofhelplessness. If they didn’t blame anyone they would admit that they are not in control and that there is nothing they can do.

By blaming others the helpless person assumes the position of the accuser and feels more in control.

In some situations its OK to blame others if they were really responsible and if blaming them is going to prevent similar mistakes in the future but in most cases you must learn how to take responsibility of your actions and be in control of your life so that you don’t blame innocent people.