Believe it or not, there are still people out there waiting until their wedding night to have sex. If I had to guess, it’s mostly couples that are deeply religious, who are staying true to their faith, which is highly commendable. There are others, mostly women, who are refraining from sex to weed out all the pretenders.
So let’s look at the pro and cons of waiting until marriage to have sex.
Pros:
1. No Regrets
Many young people have sex, end up breaking up at some point and regret it. Holding out until you are emotionally ready to have sex is very important and in some cases that my mean waiting until you are married in a stable relationship.
2. Love You For You
Practicing abstinence means that you can be 100% sure that your significant other is not with you for what he/she gets in bed. Speaking from experience, guys will say anything to get what they want regarding sex. So if you really want to know if a guy likes or love you for you, re frame from sex and his true colors will shine.
3. A Special Moment
A wedding is one of the best days in a person’s life, and of course, everyone looks to his or her wedding night. Just imagine how much more special that night would be if it were your first time making love. Some couples that have been in long-term relationships and are engaging in sex worry that their wedding night will be boring.
4. No Babies
The only way you can be completely sure that you or your girlfriend won’t get pregnant is by not having sex period. No birth control is 100% reliable.
Cons:
1. The First Time
Loss of virginity is often depicted as a serene moment when a man and a woman make love better than they ever will again in their lives. In truth, first time sex is a bloody, awkward, and painful process that is usually unpleasant for both parties. The woman usually experience very intense pain, especially when an overeager partner tries to continue when the woman needs a break. Men usually have difficulty navigating all of the new body parts while trying to manipulate unfamiliar birth control, often leading to mild impotence or premature ejaculation. You want your wedding night to be as close to blissful as the stories describe, and one of the best ways to do this is to not be afflicted by first time jitters and excruciating pain.
2. Practice
You wouldn’t play in a big game without practicing first or take an important test without studying. Sex should be the same way. Even if you and your loved one are not virgins, if you have limited experience, sex will be underwhelming. By exploring the art of love making, you gain endurance, expand your creativity, and learn techniques to better satisfy your spouse. You can choose to settle for little league play, but you will both be much happier if you have at least moderate skill, especially if it was learned with each other.
3. Compatibility
Compatibility between a husband and wife is critical to the survival of the marriage. You need to be comfortable with your spouse emotionally, spiritually, intellectually, physically, and intimately. If you are unable to sleep comfortably in the same bed with your spouse or appear naked before your spouse, it is just as damaging to your marriage as if you can’t have a civil conversation together. By waiting until marriage to have sexual relations, you are unable to discover if you are sexually incompatible until it is too late. It is far better to learn about any problems earlier in the relationship, when you can either seek professional or familial aid in solving it, or end the relationship on good terms.
4. Better Honeymoon
Despite giant heart shaped beds and hot tubs filled with Champagne, the honeymoon is not entirely about sex. A honeymoon is supposed to be an opportunity for a couple to bond in a care free and work free environment. The sights and activities that exist at your exotic resort are just as important as the down filled bed, and possibly more so. If you have never enjoyed sex before the honeymoon, you will likely try to fill every waking moment with it, just to make up for the previous lack. This will simply be less memorable than if you mix your honeymoon with sex and other activities. Furthermore, having built up to this moment, you are likely to try to make the sex some epic event. Yet, it will be much pleasant if you simply view your honeymoon sex as a more romantic, sensual, and erotic version of an activity that you and your spouse are already familiar with.
Well those are my Pros and Cons for why you should wait until your wedding night to have sex. Ultimately the decision is based on your beliefs and what feel right to you as a couple. Sex is not something that should be taken lightly because there are many things to consider before giving your body to someone else. Be safe and enjoy the experience with it’s before or after marriage.
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